||  ~Shree Khaa Naa Ya Namaha~  ||
 

                    Mrs. and  Mr. Sambhar Chatni 
Request the pleasure of the  company of  Mrs. & Mr.  Idli  On the
occasion of the  Marriage of their  grandson,
 
            SADA DOSA ( Son of Mrs. & Mr.  Masala  Dosa)

                      TO

            PANI PURI ( Daughter of  Mrs. & Mr.  Bhel Puri)
 
              on  30th September  2008, 12.00  a.m.
 
                  at  Dahi Wada  Hall, Samosa  Building,Cham Cham  Road,Opposite Papad  Theatre, Haldiram, Mumbai  Rasgulla 400  000.

Res. :  "Nariyal ka Chatni", Paneer  Rd. Chola Battura  Avenue, Mumbai    Dhokla 400  111.

Tel.  91-22-25618241 

email id: Stomach_upset@... 

NO GIFTS  PLEASE, ONLY PRESENTS. 

Best wishes from  :

Mr.  Ghee roast dosa and  Mrs. Dahi
puri

Ten ways to stop those credit card sales, mobile companies, insurance
calls from irritating you:


1          After the telemarketer finishes speaking, ask him/her to
marry you.


2          Tell the telemarketer you are busy at the moment, and ask
him/her, if          he/she will give you his/her home phone number
so
you can call him/her          back.


3          Ask them to repeat everything they say, several times.


4          Tell them it is dinnertime, BUT ask if they would please
hold. Put them          on your speaker phone while you continue to
eat
at your leisure. Smack          your food loudly and continue with
your
dinner conversation.


5          Tell them that all business goes through your agent, and
hand
the phone          to your five year old child.


6          Tell them you are hard of hearing and that they need to
speak
up.... louder...          louder... louder!


7          If they start out with, "How are you today?", say "I'm
so glad you asked, because no one these days seems to care, and I
have
all these problems.... ......... "


8          Tell them to speak very slowly because you want to write
every word down.


9          Cry out in surprise, "Helen, is that you? I've been hoping
you'd          call! How is the family?" When they insist they are
not
Helen, tell          them to stop joking. This works especially well
if
the telemarketer is          really MALE.


10          Tell the ICICI call centre guy to call on your office
number
- and give          him the HSBC call centre number.

Life is a Challenge -- Meet it.
Life is a Gift -- Accept it.
Life is an Adventure  --Dare it.
Life is Sorrow  --Overcome it.
Life is a Tragedy  --Face it.
Life is a Duty  --Perform it.
Life is a Game --Play it.
Life is a Mystery  --Unfold it.
Life is a Song --Sing it.
Life is an opportunity --Take it.
Life is a Journey  --Complete it.
Life is a Promise --Fulfill it.
Life is Love  --Embrace it.
Life is Beauty --Praise it.
Life is a Spirit --Realize it.
Life is a Struggle --Fight it.
Life is a Puzzle --Solve it.
Life is a Goal --Achieve it...

From Bride's Perspective

The concept of arranged marriages has changed. And, not just for men. As a woman, ideally, your life partner should be someone with whom you can share interests and who will encourage your independence. As with any relationship, friendship is the key. Good communication from the beginning will help ensure that yours is a lasting, loving partnership.

Let's take a look at how to go about looking for these characteristics in the context of an arranged marriage.

New avatars
Arranged marriages are not like they were. It is now more like meeting someone through your family or like being set up for a blind date. Parents or friends introduce the couple and let them talk via phone or email, meet a couple of times, and then ask for a decision. If the couple says No, it's a No. However, when parents are involved, there will inevitably be some pressure as they can't help but give their opinion and advice.

These days, couples often initiate the dialogue themselves, through matrimonial sites (as parents may not be familiar with computers) and end up being the ones introducing each other to their parents. Call it an 'arranged introduction', as the choice is solely left to the couple.
Another difference is that it is no longer only the guy who decides first. Girls have an equal prerogative to do so. Also, as women are now more career-oriented and financially independent, they are usually not in a hurry.

What are you looking for?
The first thing to keep in mind is to make a list (at least mentally) of attributes you would want in your life partner, so you can focus better on your search. Depending upon your preferences, some factors that might be taken into consideration (not necessarily in this order) are -- job, salary, educational qualifications, appearance (looks, height, weight, etc.), caste, horoscope, values (traditional, liberal or moderate), habits (drinking, smoking, etc.), location, family background, social standing, etc.

Inform your parents
It's best to spell out any preferences beforehand, so your parents can search accordingly and the list can be narrowed down. This way, you will save your parents' time as well.

Meeting your 'could-be'
Deciding to marry someone is one of the most important decisions of your life. If you are confused, unsure or awkward, don't fret -- so is the other person. Just a few things you can keep in mind when you meet your could-be significant other:

Dos: Wear something that is both flattering and comfortable. Try meeting away from relatives. Choose a neutral venue like a coffee shop. Pretend that you are on a blind date and try to enjoy yourself.

Don'ts: Don't approach the meeting with the mindset that you have to marry this person. Don't think you'll be sure to hate him either.

Before, during, and after
Before meeting, try getting in touch with the person over the phone or through e-mail to prepare you, to some extent, for what to expect. During the meeting, keep an open mindset. Relax and just be yourself. Don't hesitate to discuss important issues. Afterwards, think calmly and give yourself time to assess. Although this meeting may not indicate if this is 'the' person you should marry, it can certainly tell you whether you want to get to know the person better and take a step forward.

If, at any time during the meeting, you realise it won't work, keep your cool, be polite, and try to keep it as short as possible. Trusting your gut feeling is the most important -- if you feel something is not right, it probably is not.

Ask away!
It's perfectly okay to ask any questions you have in mind. But remember, timing is the key. For example, it can be outright insulting and offensive if the very first question is 'How much do you earn, both net and gross?'

Sometimes, information is not offered voluntarily and one hesitates to ask. But, if the answer to a question is important in taking matters further, there is no harm in asking. Maybe the person you ask will feel offended. But, when you are taking such an important decision, you have to take that risk. Isn't it better that they feel bad now, rather than you feeling worse later?

General questions that could be asked once you get familiar:
*Are you ready for marriage?
*How would you describe yourself?
*How do you like to spend your free time?
*How do you feel about sm0king and/or drinking?
*What are you looking for in a spouse?
*How much time do you want to decide?
*What are your preferences, in terms of food (non-vegetarian or vegetarian)?
*How do you feel about pets?
*What is your family like?
*What are your likes and dislikes?
*How do you act when you get upset?
*How often will we visit our extended family (if staying apart from them)?
*Do you believe in sharing housework?
*Appropriate questions on the profession front:

*What are your future career plans?
*How much time do you spend at work?
*Are you looking for a working wife, housewife, or is it immaterial to you?
*What would we do in the situation that I get transferred?

Background research
Although researching the boy's background might seem painstaking, it is very important.

The difficulty of researching goes up a notch when the boy is abroad, especially if you don't have any friends/relatives to help you out there. This was the case with one girl, who married an NRI in the US only to discover, when she got there, that he had a live-in American girlfriend.

Thus, it would be wise to make discreet inquiries outside with the help of relatives and friends, with respect to his job, family background, age, education, habits, financial condition, medical history, lifestyle, etc.

You can get an employer verification to find out if he is working there or not. Definitely check the visa status. You may also ask for a proof of employment letter, request a medical test, etc. Try calling discreetly at an odd hour to see who picks up the phone at night. You can hire a detective to do a background check (this is expensive, however). If you have friends and family abroad, ask them to meet him and find out more.

Additionally, communicate regularly through email, phone, chat, etc. to get a better idea about the person.

Previous relationships
These days, it is not uncommon at all to have had a previous relationship. If my partner had a previous relationship, I would try and be reasonable and objective about it. It depends on many factors like the type of relationship, duration, feelings, etc. As long as it is a thing of the past and he is now committed to his marriage, I would probably not mind.

However, finding out about a potential partner's previous sexual history is next to impossible. Asking such personal questions will seem too embarrassing. Arranged marriages involve the whole family and private information coming out in the open could have severe repercussions, so some may not openly disclose this aspect.

A medical checkup?
Both partners getting a blood test is absolutely a must. If the boy's side feels offended, help by telling them that you are convinced about getting it done yourself too. Actually, it is difficult for the girl or the girl's side to ask this, but I wish every person going through an arranged marriage would have the courage to insist on such tests. Isn't it better to be safe than sorry.

There are cases where, out of hesitation, marriages have taken place without such insistence, based solely on the goodwill of the family. The boys have been discovered to be HIV-positive later.

A blood test should be made compulsory for couples before marriage. Today, more boys and girls are choosing to go together to a clinic and get the test done before marriage. Some experts advise on making a thalassemia test mandatory before marriage too, for couples in high-incidence states, on the lines of the Goa Government's plan for compulsory pre-matrimony HIV screening.

Is he the one?
Finally, there should be mutual consent and understanding from both sides; only then can a marriage be sustained. It is important that you like your prospective partner enough to marry him. Good arranged marriages occur when the parents support and help their children find life partners.

          Vo nahi mera magar usse mohabbat hai to hai......

A Frenchman and an Italian were seated next to an Englishman on an overseas flight. After a few cocktails, the men began discussing their home lives.

"Last night I made love to my wife four times," the Frenchman bragged, "and this morning she made me delicious crepes and she told me how much she adored me."

"Ah, last night I made love to my wife six times," the Italian responded, "and this morning she made me a wonderful omelet and told me she could never love another man."

When the Englishman remained silent, the Frenchman smugly asked, "And how many times did you make love to your wife last night?"

"Once," he replied.

"Only once?" the Italian arrogantly snorted. "And what did she say to you this morning?"

"Don't stop."

"A Great Explanation"

The wife came home early and found her husband
in their bedroom making love to a very attractive
young woman. And she was somewhat upset.

"You are a disrespectful pig!" she cried "How dare
you do this to me -- a faithful wife, the mother of your
children! I'm leaving you. I want a divorce right away!"

And the husband replied, "Hang on just a minute,
love, so at least I can tell you what happened."

"Fine, go ahead," she sobbed," but they'll be the last
words you'll say to me!"

And the husband began -- "Well, I was getting into the
car to drive home, and this young lady here asked me
for a lift. She looked so down and out and defenceless
that I took pity on her and let her into the car. I noticed
that she was very thin, not well dressed and very dirty.
She told me that she hadn't eaten for three days.

So, in my compassion, I brought her home and warmed
up the enchiladas I made for you last night, the ones you
wouldn't eat because you're afraid you'll put on weight!
The poor thing devoured them in moments.

Since she needed a good clean-up, I suggested a
shower, and while she was doing that, I noticed her
clothes were dirty and full of holes, so I threw them
away. Then, as she needed clothes, I gave her the
designer jeans that you have had for a few years, but
don't use because you say they are too tight. I also
gave her the underwear that was your anniversary
present, which you don't use because you tell me
I don't have good taste.

I found the sexy blouse my sister gave you for Christmas
that you don't use just to annoy her, and I also donated
those boots you bought at the expensive boutique and
don't use because someone at work has a pair the
same."

The husband took a quick breath and continued - "She
was so grateful for my understanding and help that as
I walked her to the door, she turned to me with tears
in her eyes and said,

"Please ... Do you have anything else that your
wife doesn't use . . .?"

When I First Met You

Since the first time I met you,
I couldn't seem to forget you.
And lately I seem to find,
That you're always on my mind.
I feel so happy around you,
And I thank God that I found you.
At first I thought of you as a really good friend,
But I realized that my feelings there didn't end.

I was so afraid to tell you,
Cos I didnt know what youd do.
Then I heard that you felt the same way,
And those words were so easy to say.

Oh, when I see you smile,
It makes my life worth while.
And since the very start,
You have been in my heart.
When my lifes skies are dark and gray,
You chase all those storm clouds away.

I've never felt this way before,
And honestly that is for sure.
I'm so glad that we did meet,
For now my life is complete.
You're what they meant,
By heaven sent.